Life + Culture
What Used To Be Sacred About Marriage Isn’t Anymore
Call me what you will: a bigot, homophobe, a trouble maker, etc., it doesn’t matter. I believe that marriage is a very sacred and holy union between one man and one woman. It’s God ordained, approved and supported. However, the values that we used to hold dear concerning this union have become increasingly distorted, skewed, and perverted. Since 2007, the nation has battled with the idea of same-sex partnerships and marriage and whether to give those who consider themselves to be gay or lesbian the same rights as any heterosexual married couple. In addition, the laws would force religious organizations to facilitate homosexual marriage ceremonies. Does anyone see anything wrong with that? I do.
Now, don’t get me wrong. This is a not a gay bashing session and I don’t hate anyone who is homosexual. However, I view the act of homosexuality as wrong, just like stealing, lying, murder, and sex before marriage is wrong. Am I saying I have never stolen something, or lied to my boss? No, in fact my 11 year old son is proof of my having sex before marriage. So, I am no saint. But what I need the readers of this article to understand is that my views are not moral ones; morals are fickle and seem to change with the wind & over time. As a Christian, this is an ethical issue.
Marriage is an institution that was created by God for man and woman as a reflection of the union he seeks after with us. This institution is between a man and a woman. Man was created in the image of God for the glory of God and woman was created in the image of man for the glory of man (1 Corinthians 11:6-8). Here’s what I mean:
“21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs[g] and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib[h] he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”
– Genesis 2:21-24 (New International Version)
Notice the process here. God created man to fulfill a purpose and to bring glory to himself (God’s glory). Man needed help to fulfill that purpose, so God created woman from man (man’s glory). God then unifies the man and woman (brings them together [Genesis 2:22]). Man then recognizes the woman and her place in his life and they’re purposes are now merged as one. Verse 24 is the ethical code and definition of marriage. Let me point out clearly that if two men were to be married, one of them cannot be the other’s wife…
wife: noun – a female partner in a marriage [Merriam-Webster]
…and if two woman were to be married, one of them cannot be the other’s husband.
hus-band: noun – a male partner in marriage [Merriam-Webster]
There is so much talk about changing the definition of marriage in our nation. However, the definition of marriage described Genesis 2:24 is accurate and sufficient. Throughout the course of human history, we have amended laws, bended rules, and found loopholes to suit and justify our sins and desires. These relentless attempts in today’s modern world to devalue the sanctity of marriage are no exception. There are groups with special interests in our legislative, judicial, and executive systems whose aim is to outright destroy the lifestyle and ethical values that we as Christians stive to uphold. Well, I am apart of a special interest group as well – to expose wrong and maintain God’s word (our ethical code) at whatever cost. While I harbor no ill will, malice, or anger toward anyone who is practicing homosexuality, I do believe that the practice itself is contrary to God’s natural order for a man and woman, and a sin against the physical body; while the notion of same-sex marriage is a perversion and defamation of God’s definition and intent of marriage.
Soon, what is special and sacred about marriage in our culture will disappear with the winds of change. Our children, if not taught correctly will see same-sex marriages as the norm – as okay. As a father of 4 boys, I realize that I cannot force my children to be anything; they must choose for themselves. However, I do have the power to instruct and instill in them what is good and what is right. This gives them the power to make they’re own decisions when they are adults based on God’s Word which is full of wisdom, knowledge and integrity. Parents, we have our work cut out for us.
The Christian Post – California’s Proposition 8 Ruled ‘Unconstitutional’ (http://www.christianpost.com/news/californias-proposition-8-ruled-unconstitutional-68906/)
The Huffington Post – Washington House Passes Gay Marriage Bill http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/02/08/washington-gay-marriage_n_1264038.html)